Husband and I decided we should start exercising again. Other than the fact that we have grown the typical steady-relationship gut and desperately want to get rid of it, we want to be more healthy. But really, this gut is not flattering. Especially since now all my clothes are a size too small and I look like I’m exploding out of them. Low rise jeans…really need to chuck these out of my closet regardless. So anyway, we did a yoga and abs workout just now. I feel so sore. Excellent.
I love this quote by Jessica Alba.
I chose to get married because, essentially, you’re given a deck of cards in life. The hand you were dealt with is your family and you can’t choose them.
But the one person you can choose to bring into your life as your family and to have that unconditional love with is your husband and wife. I’m choosing you as my family and we’re going to love each other through thick and thin.
Source: I’m Not Obsessed
As a feminist I had to think critically about marriage before I committed to it. There were things that I was very worried about and other things I was convince I could adjust or change completely. Now that I am married I am still trying to be aware of patriarchy, oppression, manipulation and distress that is caused by or affiliated with marriage. Marriage in Western societies for the most part has not been too kind to women and I refuse to be subjugated to bullshit because of my gender.
I think there are quite a large group of men who don’t realize how creepy they are. They might be really nice people but they really need to realize how misdirected some of their actions can be. For instance today while at work a man probably in his mid 30s came in for a meeting with employee ABC. I called ABC and told the man that ABC would be out shortly. This man then started looking around like many people do to pass the time. But then he stood beside me desk and just kept watching me. Even when I looked up a couple of times he was staring right at me and didn’t look away. He didn’t say anything and his facial expression did not change. I don’t think he was trying to mean anything by his actions. I think he was oblivious of how awkward he was making me feel.
Another instance that has happened to me more than once is getting into an elevator with a man who then watches me punch the button for the floor I am going to but does not punch a button himself. Every time this has happened the man has gotten in before me so it seems strange that he would not punch the button first, especially when it’s just the two of us and he wasn’t rushed into the elevator. He will then stand there as the elevator rises and JUST before my floor comes he will press the button of the floor he is going to. Why do people do this? And when men do this when they are alone in an elevator with only a woman they don’t know, don’t they realize how creepy this seems? I always exit the elevator and keep a watchful eye over my back in case he starts to follow me.
There are other instances that have happened to me which I can’t recall off the top of my head, but these two have happened to me enough to ask myself what is wrong with these people. Stop creeping women out!
I was reading some old posts on husband’s previous blog and came across a geek test that he did way back in 2003. His results were 14% geek which meant he had “geekish tendencies”. I took the test now and came up with 11%, which put me in the same category. I twisted husband’s arm to take the test again to see if his results have changed after so many years. Guess what? He got 18% making him an official geek. EXCELLENT! Geeks are hawt.
Take the test HERE if you’re interested.
I really don’t like leaving bitchy posts as the most recent read on my blog so I am here to leave a happy one to combat it. I got this idea after reading a friend’s blog. You know who you are. ^_^
Happy things that have happened recently:
I feel much better now.